Thanks for your thoughts on this pressing issue. You definitely bring up a lot of good points regarding Jon Gosselin (here on out referred to as JGoz), and I look forward to addressing them somewhat/entirely inadequately over the course of this blog convo….blogvo…um, anyway…let me preface by saying I’ve seen very little of the actual show Jon and Kate Plus 8, so will be basing my commentary almost entirely on gossip blogs and hearsay, which totally qualifies me to write about this matter.
Getting to your first thought — I wouldn’t go so far as to call JGoz a “sleaze bag” (unless the marriage crumbled due to his cheatin’ ways)– I would say he falls more in the territory of douchenugget, or perhaps age-inappropriate and slightly delusional. So I feel he’s just a bit sad, not necessarily contemptible (yet).
And I do agree with you that no one should be held to a certain set of behaviors just because they happen to be a part of an identity group — so as an individual, JGoz has a fundamental right to do what he damn well pleases, AsAm 101 be damned! But I don’t believe this excuses people from criticism when they reinforce negative stereotypes that do us harm (see: Tila Tequila, Ken Jeong’s recent work). This does bring up the question for me though – when viewers look at Jon, do they identify him as Asian? To what extent was his Korean American identity discussed on the show? I don’t have a clear sense of this, but National Academy of Sciences needs to do a study on public perception of JGoz, stat!
And while Jon (Mr. Goz if you nasty) could sleaze it up as a display of his (Asian American?) manhood as much as he wants…I think for every sexless eunuch, mainstream media is full of Asian men portrayed as domineering, womanizing, and family-abandoning, so I’m not really eager to greet this as a needed characteristic to further humanize the Asian American male.
OK, onto the fun stuff: in the words of Peaches, does JGoz make the ladies’ panties go ping? Well. He’s got a not too shabby track record: he nabbed Kate, who is a good-looking woman (just mentally block out the rabid possum ‘do), and he’s recently been seen gallivanting with 22-year-old Hailey Glassman and Star Magazine reporter Kate Major. All these wimmins seem to fit JGoz’s preferred mold of corn-fed wholesome “All-American” girls. Which gets back to the question of whether he contributes to a perception of Asian males as more studly if he can bag hot white chicks. Whether these last gals have hooked up with JGoz out of true affection or to get a slice of celebrity pie is a convo for another day.
How about this particular lady? Well first, to qualify as a “playboy”, you actually have to convince people you’re smooov. JGoz just kinda looks old and bloated and awkward to me. I don’t think JGoz is fugs by any means, but it’s hard for me to look past the mountain of Ed Hardy/Christian Audigier, fake tanner, and hair gel he rolls around in lately.
Plus, his latest bromance with Michael Lohan seriously throws ice water on the hotness factor, and if you ask me, doesn’t do much to help his fatherly image either.
But Hey! I’m an open-minded gal Slanty, so send me these “badass” pics of JGoz — preferably wearing something any normal person over the age of 25 would wear.
So. In short, I think JGoz is kind of an ass. But not necessarily because his marriage ended or because he desires an identity separate from his family. And I can understand why he might wanna go all mantrampish and start dressing like a frat boy after his 8-child entrapment and the tabloid circus that could make anyone feel like less of a man. But I say if you wanna feel like a man – then act like one – be grown and sexay by taking care of your kids instead of prioritizing more reality shows, endorsement deals, and questionable broads.
And yes, I’m in total agreement with your last point — that you can’t claim to be all Kumbaya just cuz you happen to (or go out of your way to) bang some brown folks. This could be just another symptom of one’s racism, rather than a mark of real progress.
So — thoughts Slanty? Hit me back!
This is a blog conversation with Slanty from Slant Eye For The Round Eye where the dialogue will span both blogs (and following along should be easy as each reply will link back to the previous part of the conversation).